If you have been trying to get pregnant you most likely have experienced the stress that not being able to conceive can bring to your marriage, life and sometimes career. It’s quite normal to think that you are a failure or that there is some defect with your body. There are also some individuals who believe that some things they did in their past life is the root cause of their infertility. In other words, they don’t think that they are deserving of having a baby.
If you really want to get pregnant, you must dispute your irrational beliefs. You are not a failure just because you haven’t conceived yet. Outside of perhaps doing some unhealthy things to your body in prior years, your infertility is not your fault. You need to be more positive than you are negative. Beating yourself up or your spouse up while waiting to get pregnant will not help anything. Don’t alienate yourself or your spouse during this stressful time. You need each other to make this happen.
The best way to change your way of thinking is by watching what you say and think. As you go about your daily routine, make sure that you ask yourself “What’s worrying me about not being able to conceive”? Very often you will find that the things you are worried about are directly related to the negative things that you have been thinking about.
Instead of being negative about the situation why not look on the bright side for a change and speak positively about getting pregnant. For example, instead of saying “I can’t get pregnant” why not say “I expect to get pregnant soon”.
Also, make sure that you don’t set deadlines for getting pregnant. It’s ok to have goals but don’t set hard drop dead dates for getting pregnant. If you set a date and don’t get pregnant by that date you could be in for an emotional roller coaster. Think about the positive and envision that joyous day when you and your spouse are staring at your beautiful new baby.
One of the important aspects of trying to get pregnant is working with and not against your spouse. I assure you that the both of you are dealing with emotional stress. You might handle it differently but you both have it. There will be times when you are taking your frustrations out on each other.
You may run into the situation where it appears that priorities are not aligned and that can cause division when it come to trying to have a baby. Perhaps you or your spouse is not demonstrating the desire to get pregnant. If there is no teamwork involved with trying to get pregnant, one spouse may feel abandoned and this can hurt your chances of having a baby.
Changing your perspectives on trying to get pregnant will not automatically remove all the barriers to getting pregnant but I don’t believe it will hurt your chances of getting pregnant.